To become more we must change.
And yet we resist it. For me that is worrying about the people I know. That they won't like the changes and I'll lose them forever. I have few friends and distance makes it hard. If I allow myself to change, I question whether or not my friends would still be there. The internet is a great place to find words that fit just right and when I found DeeDee Louise post "It's Okay To Grow Out Of You", I found words that have helped me realize it's okay.
If we stayed the same, it means we are never learning, never growing. I would hope that my friends would grant me that, just like I hope to do the same for them. If we grew apart I would be sad, however friends are meant to come and go. A person will enter your life when you need something whether you knew it or not. You both fulfill a need for each other and sometimes as you grow as individuals, you move beyond what you can offer each other and drift apart. And I need to be okay with that. When reading Sara's post "Self Belief the Hideous Sundress", I realized that we are constantly wavering on our convictions to save others from having to be okay with how we feel. My favorite line from her post is;
So every step I take is to become a better person, who is true to myself and hopefully and hopefully the people I know will be doing the same.