Self Care for Him
It came upon me late one night, that while Kevin and I have been together for ten plus years, I knew very little about his self care methods. Of course this hit me while he was recovering from injury and I was hovering over him, freaking out because I literally did not know what to do. It's so rare for Kevin to be sick or hurting or even grumpy. I shouldn't be surprised that I don't really know how to best help. In this case I figured it out; called the doctor, booked appointments, switched between ice and heat, ensured there's food, drive to the doctors, get the prescription, home back to ice and heat, find ways to entertain, and try not to be grumpy.
When things felt a little calmer, I asked him what his self care methods were. The answer kinda surprised me. He doesn't have anything specific, he does what he wants, when he wants it. The simplicity of that is kinda stunning. I mean there's dozens and dozens are self care articles I could link you to, that talk about all the things you could or should do.
Do you know that outside of work 86% of Kevin's time is spent with me? He has one night a week that he spends on Skype playing video games with his friends and that isn't even something that happens all the time (holidays!). The majority of the time we spend together are playing video games, watching movies, working out or doing some random thing one of us found.
His self care feels so basic. It's missing the flare you see in all the self care articles. And I think that's why I love his answer so much. His self care is enjoying life and having the ability to enjoy the things he loves. And part of that is me.